sometimes i question myself why my mother put up with my fucking father. like seriously African Women, you don’t have to put up with the bullshit that your husband put you through. I never ever want to have the relationship that my mother and father have. I don’t even think this is a relationship….
See. I have a friend that pretty much believes it is a man’s right to cheat on his wife/girlfriend/wharreva. Can you imagine? This is an issue with all nationalities but I believe African women’s own case na different thing. I cannot Abeg. Those days are over.
I agree but as I talk to older African women, it seems like at a certain point you just stay and put up with it because of your kids and the fact that you don’t want to go thru dating and stuff again. When you are with your husband after 20 years, it’s pretty pointless to leave unless you have your own business and career and don’t need him to take care of you. Many women our parents age, become house wives as the years go by and end up depending on their husbands, so if you decide to leave him you’d have to find a job and a place to live and all that is just too much drama. I know a few women who despise their husbands but stay because of the support. They don’t sleep with them or even speak to them at times but they are still there because of support and their children.
I hear you, not only African women go through this though, I see it happening within most minority communities. I always said I would NEVER marry a Caribbean man because of those things